Live in present moment.

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Its 1:25 AM im super tired, sleepy, work only half done,
start working in home office at 11 PM because at afternoon i drop my monthly food donation to an orphanage, and at night Gus Andra is super cranky he just wanna play iPad and refuse to sleep *errrrr....

My mind is already thinking that i need to wake up and do grocery shopping at 6 AM in the morning (which is super hard for me to wake up at 6:00 AM, because im still adjusting to new sleeping pattern, i normally sleep at 2 or 3 AM and wake up at 8 AM) making list on what to shop , what to cook, and what job needs to be done tommorow....

 And suddenly i read this quote that in pinned in my pinterest account weeks ago... And it just a great reminder for me to keep my mind in the present moment, inhale , exhale, and just enjoying updating this blog as usual.

 Its amazing how wild our mind is, if you are aware of your thoughts for just 5 minutes, you will soon realize that your body is here, but your mind is travelling everywhere, planning this and that, thinking about the past, about targets, about tommorow, what to do the next few hours, and the list goes on and on and on....

And when you realize that you are not present in the now, the funny thing is... You are in the now.
And in the now there is no trouble
 No pain

Its silence, peace, and tranquility...


isn't it what we want in life?

It is that simple to be happy. If you want to be happy, be.
Stop thinking. enjoy present moment, breathe,...
and take just a simple one minute to feel grateful that you are alive, breathing in that particular moment.


 :)

Jangan berharap!

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Today's post will be in Bahasa Indonesia..
*halagh*

Okeh, tadi pagi sambil beberes rumah, tiba2 aja kepikiran 2 pertanyaan yang ngeganggu, ga ilang2, sampe akhirnya ditweet :



Well, semua bisa dicari di google yaaa...

Nemulah link blog ini ... yang lagi bahas buku Bob Sadino.


. “Terlalu banyak  harapan yang tidak sesuai kenyataan. Jadi ngapain berharap?.” Dia mengatakan bahwa untuk meraih sukses, seseorang harus membebaskan dirinya diri harapan. Berikut kuitipannya:
“Orang pintar basanya paling banyak harapannya. Bahkan maunya berhasil dalam waktu singkat. Padahal semua itu impossible! Orang goblok harapannya hanya satu: hari ini bisa makan!

Menurutnya menjadi pengusaha itu tidak ada syaratnya. Pengusaha itu harus bebas tekanan, merdeka, terserah mau kemana pun dia melangkah. Tidak boleh ada syarat. Tidak boleh ada kata “harus”. Harus begini, harus begitu, harus punya ini, harus punya itu. Karena semua keharusan itu merupakan hambatan.




Beberapa pemikiran tersebut terjawab di bagian akhir. Bagian yang paling menarik menurut saya. Bagian ini menjelaskan tentang gambar pada cover tentang 3 lingkaran yang melambangkan tiga tahapan kehidupan menurut  Bob Sadino:
1. Lingkaran yang terbagi dua oleh garis dan masing-masing bagian berwana hitam dan putih.
2. Lingkaran yang warnanya menghilang dan yang tersisa hanya garis kelokan  yang membagi dua lingkaran.
3. Pada bagian ketiga garis pemisah pun lenyap, sehingga yang terlihat hanya lingkaran putih saja.

Maksudnya?                                                                                            

                Lingkaran pertama terbelah oleh garis yang berkelok. Sisi sebelah kiri berwarna hitam, sedangkan sisi lainnya putih. Lingkaran ini menggambarkan bahwa pada tahap awal kehidupan seorang manusia, selalu melihat segala hal secara hitam putih, terang gelang salah dan benar. Pandangan hidupnya penuh dengan kesaklekan, pokoknya begini pokoknya begitu, saya benar dan yang lain salah. Seya melalui proses ini pada tahap awal kehidupan saya, demikian juga sebagian besar manusia.

Pada tahap awal ini, biasanya kita sering mengalami tekanan batin karena banyak hal yag tidak sesuai dengan pandangan kita. Kok banyak orang berbuat jahat? Kok tega-teganya mereka berbuat seperti itu? Tekanan juga muncul karena banyak harapan yang tidak menjadi kenyataan. Mau jadi pengusaha gagal terus. Tetap jadi karyawan stres juga. Pada tahap ini, hidup Anda hanya terdiri dari dua corak saja, hitam dan putih. Tidak berwarna! Ketika mendapat keberhasilan, Anda gembira bukan main dan merayakannya. Dunia seolah milik sendiri. Sebaliknya saat mengalami kegagalan, Anda bersedih. Dunia seperti kiamat, seakan-akan tidak ada harapan. Biasanya, seorng manusia melewati masa ini sejak lahir sampai usia 30-40 tahun.

                Pada lingkaran kedua ini, hanya terdapat sebuah garis berkelok saja, yang membagi dua lingkaran. Tidak ada lagi hitam dan putih di kedua bagiannya. Hidup menjadi abu-abu, ternyata yang salah bisa benar dan yang benar bisa juga salah. Yang selama ini dianggap 100 persen keliru, ternyata di dalamnya bisa juga berisi kebenaran. Ketika gelap, tidak sepenuhnya gelap karena ada sedikit cahaya terang. Malam yang berabad-abad lalu gelap gulita, kini bisa menjadi terang benderang selamanya. Pandangan hidup Anda berubah!

Kala mengalami kegagalan pun, Anda bisa memperoleh pelajaran berharga dari kegagalan tersebut. Saat gembira, mungkin saja terdapat bibit bencana. Semua hal mungkin terjadi meski secara kasat mata, tidak terlihat. Anda sudah berpikir lebih bijaksana, tanpa harus menanggalkan keyakinan, karena ternyata memang betul, yang salah belum tentu salah 100 persen, demikian pula yang benar. Anda masih banyak harapan atau impian, tapi tidak menjadi kecewa bila tidak tercapai. Anda masih punya nafsu, tapi bisa mengendalikannya. Biasanya, manusia mengalami fase seperti ini pada usia 40-60 tahun.

                Fase terakhir berupa lingkaran kosong, tanpa hitam putih dan tidak lagi terbagi dua. Dia polos. Bila Anda sudah memasuki fase ini, hidup sudah seperti air. Mengalir begitu saja. Kalau bertemu kayu, ditembusnya atau belok ke arah lain. Bila ada lubang, kadang dimasuki atau dilewatinya, tidak jarang pula berbelok. Bila ada ranting di tengah jalan, mungkin disingkirkannya. Kerap juga dia berbalik karena membentur dinding.

Hidup tidak lagi terbagi dua hal hitam putih salah benar terang gelap. Melainkan sama saja. Anda sudah ikhlas menjalani hidup tanpa ada lagi keinginan dan harapan. Anda pun sudah sepenuhnya menyerahkan jiwa raga buat yang Maha Kuasa. Istilahnya Anda sudah total surrender! Tidak ada lagi yang Anda cari dalam hidup ini, apalagi hanya sekedar materi. Anda sudah memasuki dunia wisdom. Dunia yang penuh dengan kebijaksanaan…

Biasanya, manusia baru bisa mencapai tahap ini pada usia di atas 60 tahun. Ironisnya banyak juga orang yang sudah berusia di atas 60 tahun, tapi masih bergerak pada fase lingkaran kedua. Bahkan mungkin di fase pertama. Saya perlu kasihan pada orang sepeti itu. Di sisi lain, ada juga anak muda – baru 20 – an tahun atau 30 tahun – tapi hidupnya sudah dipenuhi kebijaksanaan fase ketiga.

                Saya sudah berada di fase lingkaran ketiga sejak lama. Karena saya sudah tidak pernah berharap, tidak punya keinginan lagi, tidak punya tujuan dan tidak pernah punya rencana. Yang saya lakukan hanyalah mengalir saja, lakukan saja. Ikhlas dan total surrender.

Anda termasuk golongan yang mana?


Kalau aku.. Masih di golongan lingkaran kedua :) Yeah call me sok mature tapi for honest itu lah yang dirasain..

Dulu bener2 "militan" banget dan tipe high achiever, bahkan dulu kalau paling benci dengar pepatah orang tua yang bilang :
- Kalau lagi senang jangan terlalu gembira , kalau sedih jangan terlalu sedih, karena semua sementara.. 
- Hidup itu dibiarkan mengalir saja, jangan terlalu ngotot..

Paling bete karena menurut aku itu pepatah pembenaran dari orang apatis yang ga berani punya impian besar,
Hahaha..

Tapi, as i grow older... 
Mulai paham kebijaksanaan dibalik 2 pepatah tadi ...

Sekarang lebih santai, lebih rileks, tetep punya ambisi, pas gagal ya kesel juga tapi ga terlalu berlarut lama, pas berhasil juga ga euphoria.. 


Sungguh ga berharap itu bener2 membebaskan :) 
Karena jadi fokus berkarya dan  seperti dikutip dari Bob Sadino :

 jangan terlalu memikirkan sukses. Kalau terlalu banyak mikirin sukses, bekerja gak rileks dan hasil jadi ga bagus..













Happy New Year 2013

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I fall from my motorbike on 31st of December.. it just minor injuries but it its quite painful when im walking, so i spent new year in the most boring way ever..., sitting in couch all day , watching TV, and eating grilled meat till midnight and watch fireworks. But im thankful that i have all the family member, my son is super happy to see all his older cousins at home..

I really adore kids..
They can  giggle and laugh all day just by running around the house playing hide and seek.
Damn im jealous.





Anyway..
Im really thankful for 2012,
its been wonderful , a few highlite :

- Im able to buy a new house for new investment and buy my dream car
- Gus Andra is turning 2 years old, and he is super healthy, lovely, although sometimes he drives me crazy because he looove to make mess at home :-|
- Starting a new adventure in online business, thankful for @webmasterID that i know from twitter, he is younger than me but he is just so creative and have this simple yet profitable ways strategy on making money online, it really open my mindset that making money online is super easy .. The only problem left is to get rid of that laziness hahaha..
- Im thankful for my business in Oriflame, despites of the ups and downs, im blessed and i will keep on doing  business with Oriflame,...

And my new year resolutions in 2013 is quite simple,
i only have 3 single big goals this year
1. To have emergency funds (the amount should be 12 times my expenses per month) in my bank account at least December 2013 or faster, money should come from my online business.
2. Start a non profit project. I already figure out how i want it to be, but not into details yet, so i'll update it when its ready.
3. Fulfill my 2013 shopping wish.

So, happy new year everyone :*
Kisses


How you can change the world?

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The answes is :
By doing one single act of random kindness at a time. (Morgan Freeman in Evan Almighty)

 This quote hits me. 
And inspires me.

 You know, its 4 more days to new year, and im a new year resolution freak ...
I plan to write my new year resolution in 29 December .. 

 Usually my goals is always about possesions...
To have this ..
To own that..
etc.

 This year i wanna make a lil difference..
I wanna contribute more....

 so the past few days , i was wondering, 
what kind of contribution that i can make to others ?

 And by coincidence, i watch this movie Evan Almighty in Trans TV today..
Aha! I can make a difference by doing baby steps.... 
One single act of random kindness at a time...

 One ideas that pops up to my mind is..
To create a non profit website or blog, where i share all my knowledge and experience to readers (my target is teens..
I hope i can come up with other interesting ideas, and choose which ideas that i will execute next year!

 yay!
Happy :)

 Oh, btw , i really loooove this song by Beyonce, I Was Here.. It perfectly suites my mind for the past few days.
She perform this song on World Humanitarian Day, and do check this beautiful website :

 http://whd-iwashere.org/




I wanna leave my footprints on the sands of time
Know there was something that, and something that I left behind
When I leave this world, I'll leave no regrets
Leave something to remember, so they won't forget

I was here...
I lived, I loved
I was here...
I did, I've done, everything that I wanted
And it was more than I thought it would be
I will leave my mark so everyone will know
I was here...

I want to say I lived each day, until I died
I know that I had something in, somebody's life
The hearts I have touched, will be the proof that I leave
That I made a difference, and this world will see

I was here...
I lived, I loved
I was here...
I did, I've done, everything that I wanted
And it was more than I thought it would be
I will leave my mark so everyone will know
I was here...

I was here...
I lived, I loved
I was here...
I did, I've done, everything that I wanted
And it was more than I thought it would be
I will leave my mark so everyone will know
I was here...

I just want them to know
That I gave my all, did my best
Brought someone to hapiness
Left this world a little better just because...

I was here...

I was here...
I lived, I loved
I was here...
I did, I've done, everything that I wanted
And it was more than I thought it would be
I will leave my mark so everyone will know
I was here...


12 days to new year..

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When i was around 20 years old 
i dreamed about being an extremely successful businesswoman,
to own a big company that exist worldwide
to have a private island
to have private jet
to have fancy luxury jaw dropping million dollar sport cars..
to gain worldwide recognition as an successful womenpreneur , make it into Forbes list..


and so on
and so forth...

But, you know, since i read and decide to re-post this article about Dr Teo, the millionaire cosmetic surgeon whom pass away because of cancer, this question always pops up to my mind in the past few days....
I think you, whoever you are, who read this post .. you might wanna ask these question too to yourself.

If im about to die in .. well, let say.. 12 months from now?

Will that goal still be important to me?
What will i do differently?
Will i still doing what im doing today?
What will i do more?
What will i stop doing?

And... im quite surprised that some of my life goals, 
the goals that i thought was important and essential for me...
it's not.
i dont want it anymore.

For example :
- i dont want to build my own big company,12 months is too short to build one, and afterall , i still can make more than enough money (at least it is enough for me), just by being a small online internet marketer/business owner like i am today..

And my answer to my self for those questions are :

If im  about to die, in 1 year from now.. i will spend my last 365 days doing this ....
- Spend as much time as i can, with my son, my husband, my family, and my bestfriends, i wanna tell them that i love them, and their support means the world to me..
- To pray more, being more grateful to God ..
- Travel more..
-  Share my "money making" knowledge and experience for free to those whom interested to be enterpreneur..
- Blogging positive articles, ideas, to the world...
- Designing and creating stuff. ( i love designing, it can be designing products packaging, brochure, website layout, it makes my happy...)
- Doing charity works

And what a realize is...
I used to think , that my goals comes from my self, comes from the heart..
and im surprised, that it is not.

My former life goals when i was younger, comes from what media tells me
it comes from the book i read, advertising that i see, magazines, tv commercial, etc
That i should own this , be this, do that.. In order to be considered successful in life. Back then i was thinking, this life is precious, i have to be super serious and make my life a masterpiece!
And if im successful (financially) , it will make me happier, it make people respect me more, and that is what you supposed to pursue in life. 

 But hey, when i ask deeply to my heart.. if you're going to die in 12 months, will you pursue that goals, the answers become very clear..

No, i dont want it.
No, i dont really wanna be that
Its not what important for me.
It doesn't mean that i dont need money.
I need money, i still want to be wealthy. 
But i dont need to be featured in Forbes 
I dont need to be featured in SWA Magazine..
I dont need to have million dollar sportcar or Hermes Bag..
What i achieve today, is more than enough for me.

Well, media is doing a very good job in brainwashing people to buy this, to be that, to have this and that..

I saw a video in Youtube today, how powerful advertising agency power to brainwash people, society,
The video is documentary on how cigarette company works , how they brainwash people to buy toxic that people call cigaretess.

Its the same pattern actually.. Cigaretess equals youth, energetic, it makes you cool, and by being cool, it makes you happier.
The same like other lies, that you need this and that and be this and that, to be happy, that it is the essentials in life.





From now on, everytime i pursue a goal, i will ask, is it really important for me?
I wanna follow my heart..
its my life.. its me.. and i wanna make it meaningful....




16 days to end of 2012...

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If you are a new year resolution freak like me,
and especially if you always measure and review your achievement year by year (and feel like a failure if you dont achieve your target ....)
 i think you should read this beautiful article below.



Mendekati akhir tahun seperti saat ini, banyak sekali muncul review tentang perusahaan sampai dengan skala negara,.
Dari ratusan atau ribuan variabel yg tersedia, perhatian manusia modern lebih tersita pada pertumbuhan ekonomi.

Kalau sebuah negara bisa bertumbuh + apalagi lebih dari 5% artinya sukses. Dan sebaliknya seolah nista bila pertumbuhan ekonominya negatif. 

Kita seolah ingin membatalkan 
hukum alam , bahwa apa yg naik akan turun , yg tumbuh akan mengkerut dan yg muncul akan lenyap dan kemudian sebaliknya akan terjadi.

Saat ini setiap negara mempertahankan "mati-matian" agar selalu dan selalu bertumbuh, bahkan mengorbankan begitu banyak hal yg seringkali lebih berharga daripada kenikmatan yg didapat dari pertumbuhan tersebut.

Bila kita mau menaikan leher kita lebih tinggi sedikit, kita akan melihat sebuah konvoi besar yg berjalan berlawanan dengan apa yg mereka inginkan, yaitu Kebahagiaan.
Ketika seseorang mengingatkan mereka bahwa mereka menuju arah yg salah, jawaban yg di terima 
"Diam kau,kita sedang bertumbuh 6% pertahun"
sebagian kecil sadar namun tak berani berbalik arah, karena yg berbalik di bilang tak waras.

lihatlah,
Amerika pernah di kenal dan di kenang sebagai negara dengan pendapatan perkapita terbesar tuga menjadi jawara dalam penggunaan obat penenang 

China yang ekonominya bukan hanya menanjak tapi meroket dalam 20 tahun terakhir ini diikuti dengan angka bunuh diri tertinggi di dunia.

Disisi sebaliknya negara-negara yg penduduknya relatif lebih berbahagia, seperti Islandia, dimana kegagalan diterima bahkan dihormati. Bhutan punya istilah "Gross National Happiness is more important than Gross National Product" yg di tempel di sekolah2.

Dunia ini bukanlah stadion tempat kita berlomba untuk mengeruk pundi harta sebanyak mungkin, namun sebuah rumah dengan taman bermain yg selayaknya kita rawat untuk anak-anak kita dan syukur2 bisa lebih indah sewaktu kita meninggalkannya.

Winston Churchill pernah berkata " kita hidup dari apa yg kita dapatkan dan kita bahagia dari apa yg kita berikan"
Bukan seberapa banyak yg kita dapatkan yg membuat kita bahagia tapi seberapa besar yg kita kontribusikan.

Selalulah ingat, bahwa diakhir hidup, kita tidak dinilai dari berapa banyak uang yg kita telah kumpulkan, besar rumah yg kita tempati, bagus mobil yg kita kendarai tapi berapa banyak jiwa yg kita sentuh selama kita menggunakan tubuh manusia ini.

Sahabat, Tetap akhiri tahun ini dengan merancang sebuah target yg fantastis untuk tahun depan, bukan target besarnya pengumpulan tapi banyaknya kontribusi.

berbagilah maka anda akan berbahagia

Please Share :) _/\_







Agnes Monica Speech

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Agnes Monica is truly inspirational...

The main reason that i adore her, is not about her music, but her courage to pursue her dream.
This is her video from her speech at Global Youth Conference in Bali *yay thumbs up for Bali*, where her latest single with Timbaland will be the theme song for this Global Youth Movement. Yep, Timbaland, the producer who works with Nelly Furtado, Justin Timberlake, etc.

*jawdrop*

Her speech is sooooo awesome, each of her sentence are like a three point in basketball game. *bam bam bam* Im quite sure if im watching her speech live, i will give standing ovation and clap my hands for hours.



My Favorite quotes :
- Haters gonna hate no matter how good you are. So be the best instead.
- People think that im arrogant, because i dream to win my first grammy. People was like, what do you talking about? you're just Indonesian. Some people hate me because i know what i want, and im not afraid to pursue what i want. For some people knowing what you want in life is arrogance, but for me its confidence.
- When i was dreaming about going international, i bought this huge pink folder, and i start compiling, who i wanna be working with, dancer, singer, songwriters, producers. And the first page on that folder is Timbaland's name. And in 2010 , i have that chance to meet and work with Timbaland, and today 2012 i can release this song with him and this song will be part of this particular global youth movement about making a chance. #awesomeness!!!!!
- Do more than what it takes to make it happen.
and the closing sentence :
Miracle was called miracle because its once, not believed.

BRAVOOOOO *standing ovation*

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